Father’s Day Wisdom

Charles C Savoie and Ursula Savoie Prados

By Fr. Frederick Edlefsen

When I was a boy, we often rode to “the country” after Sunday Mass to Belle Rose, Louisiana, where my grandparents, Mimi and Pawpaw (pictured above), lived. Belle Rose had a tiny Post Office, a Big-B grocery store, and St. Jules Catholic Church. No landmarks set it off from anything else among the sugarcane fields of Assumption Parish, aside from a faded green sign along LA 1 that said, “Belle Rose,” under which it stated what the population was about 20 years ago.

On those lazy Sunday evenings, we sat with Mimi and Pawpaw by their pond, behind a cane field, beneath the setting sun. We were entertained by horizontal lightning flashes between thunderheads on the southern horizon, as my parents and grandparents sipped Old Fashioneds and nibbled on doo-dads, a Nabisco snack sold at Big-B. Three generations were together, gazing upon high-voltage ice-cream castles passing westward from the Gulf of Mexico. Pawpaw, a sugar farmer and factory engineer, was not a man of many words. But I recall him saying, “Electricity! We don’t know what it is. We just know how to use it.”

Pawpaw masterfully cleaned fish. He’d slice around the head and gills at precise angles and then along the spine and around the tail with artful handicraft. He’d triangularly cut off a little hole at the fish’s bottom near the tail. I asked, “Why did you do that?” He replied, “You wanna’ eat that part of the fish?”

Pawpaw had an eating philosophy. Once, when I was a hungry teenager, we dined at a local restaurant with Mimi and Pawpaw. My appetite met its match: a gigantic crab-stuffed flounder. When my stomach registered “EXPLODE,” I pondered surrender. I said, “Don’t know if I can eat it all!” Pawpaw said, “Then don’t.” I replied, “It’s a sin to waste it.” He replied, “It’s a worse sin to eat it.” Check mate. For youth, “appetite” and “pride” are forgivable sins. “Eat until you’re comfortable, not until you’re full,” Pawpaw would say. Youth also had its virtues: it loves common sense.

If you’re looking for deep theology here, I have nothing for you. Grace flows like water through the rivulets of ordinary wisdom. The Holy Spirit purifies simple things and often works in the common sense of people like grandparents. Their simple oracles are gifts from Heaven.

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